Love vs. Fear

A few days ago a friend rang me in a state of distress. This wasn't like him — one who's usually so laid back and easy-going. He's a brilliant and talented individual who's a child prodigy — having become a college professor at age 19, not a student! He's got a heart as big as the sun and generosity to match.

Life had been good to him. He's got rewarding and fulfilling work — being very much in demand — and also in what one would consider a perfect relationship. For a year and a half, he was with one partner — a lovely and talented lady with whom he shared everything. They never fought or had disagreements for all that time ... and he constantly declared his love for her. Every day they showed tremendous examples of their love and dedication for each other. They were committed to each other as if already married. Nothing was out of place ... and nothing could have been more perfect. They were planning on getting married in near future.

For time being they felt it was appropriate to keep their relationship more private — due to the fact that they worked at the same institution — and this also meant not divulging it to the lady's parents who live close by. It is strange that, just because two people work at the same place, being in a relationship should be regarded as a stigma, as it's had no impact on the quality of their work, except to improve it most likely.

Recently, as it turned out, it was finally divulged to the lady's mother that she was in a committed relationship with this wonderful man whom she loved very deeply. Her mother went cold ... and took no time to declare her total disapproval of the relationship. Why? Because the lad isn't a Mormon and he is black; that's it! There's absolutely no other reason ... at all!

Suddenly, my friend can't make contact with his beloved — someone with whom he'd spoken to every single day throughout their relationship — even when he travelled. And now (as of this writing) there's nothing, only silence...

He's broken hearted ... and angry ... and for good reason. To reject someone solely on the basis that he's a different race or religion is ludicrous and absurd! One couldn't find a more loyal, dedicated and loving partner anywhere — not to mention the fact that this couple were the best of friends who enjoyed their time together. Both of them are the nicest people — lovely young individuals who are so brilliant, talented, loyal and with integrity and strong ethics. They both work hard ... and do everything they can to help improve the quality of life for everyone around them. And they're both in demand! Is it any wonder why — when people give so much of themselves? It should be apparent.

He has asked me to talk to his beloved ... so I'm going to do so now, because everyone needs to see what I am about to share with her:

My Dear Beautiful 'B',

You can make a statement about your precious life that few can make — that you have been in the most harmonious, dedicated and loving relationship for a year and a half, where there's been no discord or harsh words, no unkindness or suspicious behaviour, no feelings of want or disappointment, no worry or strife, no lack, no struggle. Your lives have been filled with such joy and success — your blossoming with such abundance and opportunity and everything seeming to go your way ... and you had a tomorrow with such promise to look forward to ... that is, until you allowed FEAR to take over.

But where did this fear come from? Who instilled it in you and why? How would this serve you? Are you happy now? Or are you sitting in a corner being worried about what someone else is thinking ... or seeking the approval of someone else?

When you were IN love, you knew joy ... and that's what dictated your life. Now, however, you are IN fear ... and the love is gone. Love and fear are two completely different frequencies; you cannot have or experience both at the same time. In simple scientific terms (and you will understand this if you've got any understanding of music or the properties of sound), love vibrates at a very high frequency; whereas, fear vibrates at a very low frequency. So, when it is said that you cannot mix love and fear, this is the reason why. They are completely different energies altogether — vibrating at completely different frequencies!

You need to think about the motives behind your mother's objection to your being in this precious relationship. (I'm a mother of a grown daughter too, so I know what it is to be concerned about my daughter's welfare.) Has 'A' ever mistreated you or violated you? Has he ever been dishonest or deceitful? Has he ever threatened or bullied you or stolen from you? Has he ever lied or humiliated you? I hardly think so ... so why would the fact that he's a different colour or not the same religion as you, be an issue?

"You can't be in a relationship with a man who isn't white or Mormon" is FEAR talking, NOT love! And you know what? Fear is the liar and deceiver ... and, because your mum is in fear, not love, she is lying to you — without even knowing any better. She, too, was brainwashed in her life ... and has passed on the lies to you.

Alas, she is probably doing her best and thinks she is doing a good thing by condemning your relationship with 'A', but she is perpetrating the worst DIS-ease in all the world: FEAR! And, my dear, ALL religion is about fear and is implemented solely for the purpose of forcing us into servitude through fear. "If you don't do what I say, he/she/it/they will GET you!" That isn't truth ... and that isn't love. That is fear — the great LIAR — who is speaking.

But wait! Back up! That's not how LOVE, how Truth works!

For the numerous times I've been on the Other Side as a result of my near-death experiences, I never once beheld an angry 'he-god' that condemned me or anyone to some inferno in some underworld! I only experienced unconditional love and acceptance enveloping and surrounding me at all times! True story! You can read about my NDE here.

When I saw and experienced my life review, I was bathed in the warm light of infinite love ... and made to realise that we judge ourselves! The LightSource loves and accepts us completely and unconditionally — no matter what — because we are all a part of Source. We are all individual expressions of the One .. All that IS — never apart and never separate.

If you make a decision based on the need to meet someone's approval ... or else ... you're in a state of fear, not love. You're thinking 'what will happen IF...?' That's what is often referred to as the 'what if' syndrome. What if this ... or what if that ... What if if if if if!

Slow down... Come back to the present... You're not living or experiencing the power of Now. An NDEr once described 'hell' as the fear of the unknown. Sound familiar, aye? We all go through this — every one of us! It's part of the dilemma of the human condition ... so don't beat yourself up for it, but please do face it squarely. Once again, that secret word has revealed itself — the one that tends to be at the helm of our lives all too often: FEAR! And that is very dangerous! Fear is not qualified to be at the helm ... ever!

I'm going to be very honest with you here ... and, remember, I am a mum too! Your mum isn't being your friend or ally, nor is she acting out of love by behaving the way she is and saying the things she has said. Look at how you've suddenly become shut down as a result of the FEAR that your mum has instilled in you! Are you happy? Are you free? Are you clear-minded? Are you empowered? I think not. Instead, I'm seeing a precious child who's locked in fear and totally shut down, that's what.

My dear, LightSource, God, All that IS ... whatever you choose to call IT — is not the author of fear. And being that this is so, Infinite Love would never condemn you or object to your being in a loving relationship with another human being — period!

God does not punish; God does not condemn; God doesn't give a flip!

People think that hate is the opposite of love; it isn't. FEAR is the opposite of love and hatred is a by-product of fear. So is prejudice, intolerance, bigotry, greed ... you get my drift. A soul has no sex or colour, nor does it have a religion. Richard Salva, who was recently on my radio show shared this information:

"Yogananda taught that all souls are part of God. No fully enlightened spiritual soul of either gender is greater than any other. And he said that our souls have no gender, which is why we sometimes are born in female or male bodies, depending on the spiritual lessons we have to learn. He taught that anyone who bears prejudice against anyone for any reason would have to be reborn as what he despises, to learn that we are all the same inside."

This is what I experienced on the Other Side. I was not gender identified or ego-centred. All of that melted away. I was just my authentic self — a soul at one with Source — and enveloped in unconditional love at all times. Nothing can compare to such an experience ... such love. Is it any wonder, then, why so many of us — in fact, most of us who've been to the Other Side — don't want to come back to this plane? But we've been called to come back — to share the truth that life is eternal, that death is an illusion and that only Love is real...

When I have experienced states of fear on this plane — indeed sheer terror — I was reminded that: if it isn't coming from love, it isn't real. I'll repeat that. IF IT ISN'T COMING FROM LOVE, IT ISN'T REAL! And this is what has helped lift me out of the fear and return to Truth, to Love... There is no 'devil' and there is no 'hell'. The 'devil' is fear and 'hell' is a state of mind ... and that's all. So please be mindful of your thoughts!

Who is at the helm in your life now? Is it love or is it fear? Who are you going to allow to reign in your life?

Please remember to follow your heart — not the fear — because, it is only with the heart that one can see rightly. What is essential is invisible to the eye. Allow yourself to return to the joy and the love that you so richly deserve. And if anyone or thing instils fear in you, run the other way, because it is a lie. It isn't real.

ONLY LOVE IS REAL ... and ... ONLY LOVE PREVAILS.

Richard Salva on Toward The Light

On Sunday, 24 June, I had the honour of interviewing Richard Salva on Toward The Light—an ordained minister and expert on karma and reincarnation. He's spent over 30 years in research, meditation and gaining a wealth of personal experience.

Richard has written a splendid and thought-provoking book, Soul Journey ~ from Lincoln to Lindbergh, where he provides compelling evidence that Charles Lindbergh is the reincarnation of Abraham Lincoln ... and that reincarnation itself is evident.

Taking the statement made by Paramhansa Yogananda: "Abraham Lincoln, [in a past life], had been a yogi in the Himalayas who died with a desire to help bring about racial equality. His birth as Lincoln was for the purpose of fulfilling that desire. He has come back again in [the twentieth] century as Charles Lindbergh"—Salva was led by an inner calling to chronicle the details of the lives of these two well-known individuals. What he has written more than provides validation of Yogananda's statement as irrefutable.

Because both of these men were very well known, it was easy to acquire a wealth of data on each man's life—thus providing a straightforward and exquisitely detailed chronicle of the similarities between Lincoln and Lindbergh that are uncanny—even down to the most intricate details of their lives!

So what's the point in all of this? Besides providing proof and teaching us a lot about the practical truths of reincarnation and karma, it also brings us to the clear realisation that life is, indeed, eternal and that physical death only leads to another cycle of experience, growth and self-realisation.

During the radio interview, the conversation flowed so easily; our combined research and experiences truly complimented one another—once again providing validation one to the other.

Richard is a warm and compassionate soul who is available for consultations centred on reincarnation, karma and yoga. Click on his photo to visit his website for further information.

Note: Click on the book image to take you to the site where you can order the book directly.

David Icke on Toward The Light

On Sunday, 20 May 2007, I had the special honour of interviewing David Icke on my weekly radio show, Toward The Light on BBSRadio.com. To say that the show was profoundly uplifting and enlightening would be an understatement. Our sharing together moved me to the deepest stratum of my being … and I could also feel the love and gratitude coming from all round the globe.

When I booked David on my show, Donald Newsom (president and owner of BBS Radio) rang me and said, “Do you realise that you’ve just performed a miracle—getting David Icke on your show? How did you do this?” I merely said, “It’s the Love.” And I also believe that it was the right time. David had been turning down all interviews, because he’d been working on another book—which was recently completed. But there must have been something significant about the fact that I wanted to focus specifically on his most recent book, Infinite Love is the Only Truth ~ Everything Else is Illusion coupled with the fact that I’m an experiencer. To my awareness, there had not been an interview or a talk given that was centred wholly on what is written in this deeply thought-provoking book.

Furthermore, as a multiple NDEr, I can honestly say that I’ve experienced, first hand, so much of what David discusses in this book. I’ve also done extensive research and have found that the book resonates with what I’ve both learned and experienced. I had such an overwhelming feeling that this topic needed to be acknowledged and discussed now … and I’ve got to say that it was so easy to receive a resounding ‘yes’ from David to do the show, because the message mattered; the time mattered; and the time was now. People were ready!

We already know so much about the ‘dark’ truths behind how this plane operates and the sinister forces behind it … but … there’s some tremendously good news as well—such that is certain to liberate and free us from the shackles that have currently got us locked in a world and life of fear. I felt that it was very important to focus on this ‘good news’ and that’s what the show was about.

I also saw this as a perfect opportunity for us to validate each other—where the experiencer validates the researcher’s findings and the researcher puts these experiences so clearly into a language that the masses can understand and integrate into their own lives.

But I need to be fair, here. David—although not being a near-death experiencer (NDEr)—is one who’s had multiple spiritually transformative experiences (STEs). When I asked him at the beginning of the programme what led him to the writing of Infinite Love…, he said, “How many hours have we got?” Indeed, in the early 90s, he went through a profound experience that ‘blew the top off of his head’ (to use his own words) and propelled him onto a path that he’s not been able to veer off of—one that has led him to shining a light in the darkest of places and revealing truths that most would never have the courage to consider or acknowledge, let alone speak it aloud!

David made a few statements in his recent newsletter that were also brought up during the show that are very worth noting. He states, “We all have layers of dense energy around us that are generated by what we inherit through the DNA 'hard drive' and what we accumulate through our own experience. These energies, the 'eggshell' as I call them, are expressions of fear in all its forms and rigid thought patterns that hold us in servitude to a tragically limited sense of reality. The DNA, indeed the whole cellular structure, is like a giant crystal receiver/transmitter and what it is tuned to becomes the 'world' that we think we live in.

“What we call 'the world' or the 'vastness' of space or the universe is really only a tiny range of frequencies within infinite possibility.”

The word, ‘infinite possibility’ has become a steady mantra whirling round my head since the show. During my NDEs, I could actually see and experience the truth of infinite possibility! When we realise that we are divine and one with All that IS, this is actually an easy concept to grasp. The challenge is to break free of the limited fear-based vantage point of the ego mind and move into the soul mind—that part of us that is always in communion with Source—that experiences the deep knowing that we are always connected to and co-create with Source.

Now, we’re all being flung into major changes in our lives—changes that are forcing us to wake up and evolve into our authentic selves. Everything that we’ve known or identified with is being shaken down, purged and altered—remoulding us into our true and divine expression, which is comprised of infinite possibility.

Are you experiencing this ‘cosmic tsunami’? I certainly am! And I’m hearing from people all over the world who are going through this. David is also in the midst of this change as he wrote, “I can feel the shift getting stronger and more tangible by the day. I am increasingly in this world, but not of it in terms of my point of observation. It is like looking through a window into this reality rather than being 'inside' it. It is very strange, but not at all alarming. It is very comforting, in fact, to know that what we think is 'everything' and 'important' is just an illusory nonsense generated to confuse us and hold us in servitude.”

This is exactly what I experienced during my NDEs and similar spiritually transformative experiences … and … much the same is occurring for me now as well. What David notes above is so similar to what I’ve written in my NDE account thus: “I was now being told that I was going to have to return to the alien (physical) world I’d left behind—that I was needed there for something very special and significant. I needed to go back to share what had just happened to me … and to let others know that life is, indeed, eternal and that death is an illusion. …I was also told, however, that the world I was returning to was an illusion and that I wasn’t to identify with it or be involved—to be in it but not of it—and that I was only passing through...”

When we rise into our true and authentic selves, it is easy to flow into the ‘observer’ mode and no longer be caught up in the ‘drama’ or ‘identity’ of the physical plane. We become the actor and the audience simultaneously and, furthermore, come to understand our role as co-director with Source!

We are one with Source, and death is an illusion. Knowing this, we can rewrite this script for the play we call ‘life’. Then, we can create something far more expansive and profound—a beautiful masterpiece that is centred in love and embodies the truth of our self as being infinite possibility.

David has written a wonderful NDE article entitled Fearing for a Lifetime … What Doesn’t Exist, which can be found on my website at http://www.towardthelight.org/davidickendearticle.html. Thank you, David, for these simple, yet powerful words … and for your example.

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Channelling Through Art

On Sunday, 17 June, I had the honour of interviewing a dear friend on Toward The Light, Mary Angelico, who is one of the most inspired artists I've known. She was talking about the fact that she used her intuition and responded to the voices of spiritual beings to guide her in the creation of her paintings. She even listened to these messages in regards to her schooling in fine art — allowing them to guide and teach her in her respective mediums, rather than strictly resorting to some institution for training — even though she did receive 'formal' education as well.

As a result of this, she's taken to using her art to channel the love and messages from people on the Other Side ... as well as painting 'soul portraits' of those who are still living on this plane — capturing their essence and substance — not merely creating a beautiful and lifelike portrait of their physical expression.

Recently, when Mary's sister was visiting her at her home in Portland, Oregon, her sister had a dream about their late father. This, in turn, led to both sisters receiving messages from him. Mary was led to write a song for her mum — bearing messages from her father. She also wrote a poem and did a painting of her father — all of which were given to her mum. As her mum read and responded to the messages coming from her husband, she told Mary that the content of the messages was something that Mary could not have known about, but which was totally accurate!

The painting of Mary's father was alive ... and no matter which one of the women were looking at the painting, or from what angle, each one swore that 'he's looking straight at me!' He was, indeed, watching over all three of them — hence, the title of the painting: Watching Over You.

You can see samples of Mary's work by clicking on the links above. Enjoy!

Speaking from experience and observation, I know that those on the Other Side and in various dimensions generate powerful messages and changes — especially through the mediums of art, music and writing. They can work right through an artist's brush, a musician's and writer's fingers ... and a masterpiece is born. Being an artist, musician and writer, myself, I can attest to these things.

No matter which art form you use; no matter how simple or lofty the piece may be, it's still very profound and meaningful — something that can bridge the gap between the dimensions and even between one another — linking us all together and allowing sacred messages to come through and uplift and empower all of us.

Infinite Possibility

It's the New Moon (14 June) and this is a very good time to write down what our goals and dreams are. Writing them down allows the intent to become strong and energised — enabling a greater promise of being realised.

So many individuals the world over are going through tremendous changes in their lives. It's good to take this reflective time to really focus on what you want to see manifest in your life. I like to encourage people to ask for what you really want — not what you think you can have. These are two very different things indeed!

We have been taught since we were very young to have such deeply restricted notions of what is actually possible for us — thus rendering us very much in a frame of mind that fosters a fear of lack. This is extremely dangerous ... for obvious reasons!

When I was speaking with David Icke on my radio programme on 20 May 2007, he kept referring to us and our lives as being and having infinite possibility! Think about that for a moment: Infinite Possibility. Blimey, that doesn't sound like anything limiting or restrictive, does it? This would indicate that we can even go beyond 'the sky is the limit'. In divine Truth, there are NO limits!

In this framework of infinite possibility, we can claim our divine heritage and co-create with the LightSource, because, indeed, we are a part of All that IS. We are not separate; we are not small or insignificant. We are divine — always connected and always a part of Source. This was made very clear during my transcendent NDE in the mid 70s. You can read about that NDE on my website, TowardTheLight.org. To read about this NDE click here.

Anyway, let's take advantage of the New Moon, (which occurs every four weeks and starts a new lunation), and write down our goals and dreams from the perspective of Infinite Possibility.

Wrap your beautiful mind round that one, will you, and enjoy!

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And as we like to remind everyone at the close of each transmission of Toward The Light:

It is only with the heart that one can see rightly. What is essential is invisible to the eye!

Only Love Prevails!